Feelings, Passion, Withdrawal, Pursuit, Courting
These are words that have come up repeatedly the past few days in various conversations with friends. Everyone has a different opinion and view on how these words are defined. I have my views and opinions as well. Here is my stance on what I believe these words to be.
Feelings: How we feel about ourselves, a situation, or someone else. Feelings can be temporary, long term, stagnant, or shifting.
Passion: A strong feeling or desire for something or someone. When you are passionate about someone or something it is either hard to describe in words what you feel or so easy that you can describe it in your sleep or with your eyes closed. Passion drives you every moment and everyday to achieve or obtain said desires.
Withdrawal: Avoidance or ceasing participation in something you once frequented. Can be good or bad depending what the withdrawal is from.
Pursuit: Pursuing or striving to achieve something or someone. I don’t believe pursuing is the same as dating. Dating to me is when you are getting to know someone. Once you realize you like what you have seen so far or grown to know about something or someone, pursuit comes. This means that that thing or person is the only one you have your eyes set on. All actions are deferred to that thing or person. Getting that person or thing is the ultimate goal.
Courting: After achieving victory in the pursuit comes courting. Courting is the period where actions and discussions are made into a relationship with the intention of engagement and marriage as the ultimate goal.
As I say many times in convos with my female and male friends, pursuit and courtship are a lost art within our generation. Many of us that enjoy and participate in pursuit and courtship know that we are last of a dying breed. Hand written letters, personalized gifts, paying attention to the little things, just because flowers, or massage after a long day of work are a minuet list of things that commonly happen during the pursuit and courtship phases of relationships. Many that have done the aforementioned on the list have done it on the wrong persons where it was not appreciated. Any of my friends that fall into that category…keep the faith…someone that appreciates and respects your pursuit and courtship will come along, and will not have a problem letting you know how much they care for you. They will not withdraw or have temporary feelings for you! Be Blessed!!