FEELINGS, PASSION, WITHDRAWL, PURSUIT, COURTING

March 6th, 2012

Feelings, Passion, Withdrawal, Pursuit, Courting

These are words that have come up repeatedly the past few days in various conversations with friends. Everyone has a different opinion and view on how these words are defined. I have my views and opinions as well. Here is my stance on what I believe these words to be.

Feelings: How we feel about ourselves, a situation, or someone else. Feelings can be temporary, long term, stagnant, or shifting.

Passion: A strong feeling or desire for something or someone. When you are passionate about someone or something it is either hard to describe in words what you feel or so easy that you can describe it in your sleep or with your eyes closed. Passion drives you every moment and everyday to achieve or obtain said desires.

Withdrawal: Avoidance or ceasing participation in something you once frequented. Can be good or bad depending what the withdrawal is from.

Pursuit: Pursuing or striving to achieve something or someone. I don’t believe pursuing is the same as dating. Dating to me is when you are getting to know someone. Once you realize you like what you have seen so far or grown to know about something or someone, pursuit comes. This means that that thing or person is the only one you have your eyes set on. All actions are deferred to that thing or person. Getting that person or thing is the ultimate goal.

Courting: After achieving victory in the pursuit comes courting. Courting is the period where actions and discussions are made into a relationship with the intention of engagement and marriage as the ultimate goal.

As I say many times in convos with my female and male friends, pursuit and courtship are a lost art within our generation. Many of us that enjoy and participate in pursuit and courtship know that we are last of a dying breed. Hand written letters, personalized gifts, paying attention to the little things, just because flowers, or massage after a long day of work are a minuet list of things that commonly happen during the pursuit and courtship phases of relationships. Many that have done the aforementioned on the list have done it on the wrong persons where it was not appreciated. Any of my friends that fall into that category…keep the faith…someone that appreciates and respects your pursuit and courtship will come along, and will not have a problem letting you know how much they care for you. They will not withdraw or have temporary feelings for you! Be Blessed!!

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Wait On Him

March 6th, 2012

As you know probably know, my two favorite scriptures are Ephesians 3:20 and Jeremiah 29:11

Now Unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Ephesians 3: 20 KJV

“For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope & a future” Jeremiah 29:11

In November 2011, the trials and tribulations I was going through were beginning to be unbearable. To take matters in my own hands, I decided that I would start my new year early. I began to write out my goals for 2012 and started on my 2012 Vision Board. As I always say God works in mysterious ways.  During this process Olu preached about setting 2012 goals and allowing room for God in those goals. Setting goals that would only be obtainable through him and with his blessing. Luckily many of the goals that I had written down could only be obtain through him.

The scripture says he can do exceedingly & abundantly above what we ask or think and that he knows the plans he has for us. Well Friday December 23, 2011, I received a call that would change my life. I received a job offer! This was a blessing that was 3 years in the making! All the pains and tribulations I went through before were preparation for where God was leading me too! Tomorrow March 7, will mark one month at my new company!

This new company is everything that my previous employer wasn’t! When he says he will bless above what we can think or imagine, I can testify that I am living testimony of that! I did not see it in the previous years but I trust and know that he knows the plans he has for me! As much as I thought I was being harmed previously it was just a test I had to go through to get to my future!

I have seen now seen the power of prayer and perseverance in the blessing of my career and finances. I have to remember to hold on to the faith regarding my love life as well. He has plans for our future, we just have to keep the hope that he will bless us more than we can think or imagine  through the power within us! Whatever you may be facing or going through remember to stay strong and keep your faith in him because he will Bless on his time!

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Why I Don’t Believe in Diamonds

March 6th, 2012

It seems like once every other week; I am explaining myself or answering the question as to why I don’t believe in diamonds and why I don’t want a diamond engagement ring. In 2005/2006 the Movie Blood Diamond was released, as well as Diamonds from Sierra Leone, by my husband in my head, Kanye West. Watching the movie and listening to the lyrics caused me to do further research into the diamond industry and trade.

Here’s the brief history lesson. In the late 1930’s De Beers, owned 80% of the diamond mines & noticed that the price of diamonds had been stagnant and were having a difficult time convincing people that diamonds should be the gemstone of choice. They reached out to an ad agency to help with marketing. The agency came up with a campaign to convince men and women that diamonds were the symbol of love and that it was the world’s rarest gem. Thus the evolution of everyone wanting a diamond was created. This created the emergence of conflict diamonds aka blood diamonds. Conflict diamonds are diamonds that originate from areas controlled by forces or factions opposed to internationally recognized governments.  These diamonds are sold to fund the unlawful and illegal operations of rebel and terrorist groups. Citizens of many of these countries have been terrorized, mutilated, and killed by the groups in control of the local diamond trade.

As you see the thrill and obsession of a diamond was created by “man.” I believe that since we use the Bible as a guide for our life, we should look at that jewelry that the kings and queens wore in those days. We see that Emeralds, Rubies, and Sapphires were the gemstones of great authority. Even though I know that there are certification processes for diamonds to ensure that conflict diamonds do not make it into the market, I still do not want to continue this “thrill” that “man” has created.

Honestly a nice size/cut emerald, ruby, or sapphire cost just as much if not more as a diamond. To each her own but this chick here does not want a diamond and is happy and content with the non belief in them!

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We Need to Go Back to Love Less Complicated

February 23rd, 2012

A lot has been running through my head today. Intially I planned on writing a post, but then something told me to check and see if my blog from 2005/2006 was still posted. Sure enough it was still up! This post as old as it is, describes the very emotions I’m feeling today. Enjoy!

While searching for pictures to add to my throw back collection on Facebook I ran across pictures of me and my ex from back in high school. When I was home for Thanksgiving I came across an old shoebox which held all the stuff that equaled our relationship. After going through it,  I have had many talks with my sister about back then. After contemplating whether or not to write this article or not, I decided that I would write it , to throw it out there, and see what comes back.

Memory Lane: Lets travel back to our high school years…………If anyone knew me back in the day, you knew that I use to call myself the Ugly Duckling, b/c not until I got braces was I “accepted.” I also was considered the “Good Girl.” My mom was always at the school, and everyone knew she was strict, and Angel couldn’t have boyfriends and she couldn’t talk on the phone with them…You know the list goes on. Every school has these girls. Well when I turned 16, things changed. I had a convertible car, I later got my braces off, and I started talking to boys. Long story short, I got my first official boyfriend. We were together for about 2 years. Just for the record he is married with two kids now.

Now that everyone has traveled down memory lane to high school, Lets talk about high school romances, back in our day.(nowadays kids are too grown for the own good) Normally it began as flirting in class, hallway, or at lunch. Then  comes the passing of notes and more intense flirting. Next came the friends instigating, and saying “such and stuff likes you, what you think? You like him her back” or the “Do you like me?”  After that phase has past comes the, “Will you hang out with me?, Let’s go to the mall/movies, etc” Next thing you know, you two are in a relationship and you are boyfriend/girlfriend. The two are now together and do everything together, ie, come to school together, ride home together, wait by the lockers, walk to class, carry books, hang out everyday including the weekends, go to each other games/events/functions, etc.. Quality time is spent with the other, w/o the boy/girl worrying about what their friends are saying, or who sees them….Sometimes later sex comes into play, but for the most part, many couples were not having active sex back then……The point I’m trying to say is, “What ever happened to “real” relationships? When I say real, I mean the relationships that were based on friendship and being in the company of one another. The stimulation of the mind, where body stimulation really doesn’t matter.” Could it be that when we go to college we forget about friendships, and just want body stimulation from so called relationships..

All this being said, Males when are ya’ll going to make a change? Many guys just worry about sex in a relationship. Many females give themselves to ya’ll just so that they can say they have a man, and then when they try to develop a friendship, ya’ll back out and say I aint trying to be with you like that.. Many people wonder how is it that I can be celibate for almost a year. My answer to them is that I know what I want; therefore I will wait until that time. I have decided that I will wait for that person wants me, who will put in the work to develop a friendship, stimulate me mentally, has a spiritual relationship with God, who doesn’t need sex to justify a relationship, etc. The poem going around facebook states that women should:

Find a guy who calls you Beautiful instead of Fine, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about  you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, “…That’s Her.” Find the one who constantly compliments you,  and the one who will go out of his way just for you.”

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I’m Back!

February 23rd, 2012

Hey Loves,

I am back! 2011 was truly a year of Patience, Faith, Strength,& Growth! Many changes have happened in my life and for that I am truly blessed! My Faith in God was really tested last year but I remained faithful and now are reaping the benefits of prayer and God’s Mercy & Love! Whatever you may be going through right now remember that Joy Comes in The Morning Light! I am a living testimony that the Righteous is Not Forsaken! It will Get Better!!

2012 is the Year for New Beginnings!

-Angel

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